Tonight, while spending time with friends, we discussed our mutual unhappiness at our jobs. (We all work together.) It’s a blessing to have a secure job in this economy. I am very aware of that. But to have to stay at a job that doesn’t add to your life, but rather makes you feel trapped… That’s not a way to live life. Discussing this and other topics, I realize more and more that while it is important to be employed and be able to take care of yourself, it’s equally, if not more important to be at least content, if not thrilled, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, as well. As I get older, I do realize, also, that we are responsible for much of how we view the world and our place in it. But we can only “see” the world pretty to a certain extent. There are things that are completely out of our control. If it’s a working condition, or a software program, or a piece of furniture, then we can most likely work around it. If it’s the head of your division or your supervisor, we’re out of luck. There is no “higher up” than this higher up. Anything said to this person’s boss is eventually leaked back to them “anonymously.” (This has happened in the past.) So my question is, at which point do you decide that you’ve done all you can, that you have changed your reactions, your schedule, you avoid this person, etc., everything possible so that you can do your job in relative peace? I think three and a half years is enough.
Of course this decision didn’t come overnight, and the transition to my next position won’t come overnight. But the planning has begun. I’ve got only one life to live, and staying a place where my colleagues and I are treated like stowed-away toilet paper, needed until they’ve used us up, is not how I want to spend even one more week of this precious gift of life I was given.
What have you had to deal with at work? Has anything or anyone ever been bad enough for you to consider leaving or actually leave?